[Deptheads] Re: GM complaint

Thu Sep 6 09:06:45 PDT 2012

Who is ACM?

What is he doing that is uncomfortable?

I for one have not, do not and will not laugh at female staff or attendees being harassed at our cons.

Eric N.

-----Original Message-----
From: Kryssie <phantom.hopscotch at gmail.com>
To: Victor B <fhoenix88 at yahoo.com>; deptheads <deptheads at strategicon.net>
Sent: Thu, Sep 6, 2012 8:33 am
Subject: Re: [Deptheads] Re: GM complaint

To add to my previous point (sorry, no caffeine this morning)... I *still* see ACM at the con...he *still* makes me feel uncomfortable.  He *still* insists on getting pictures taken with me.  His presence offends me because I think he has the social skills of a kumquat (which, I'm sure, is insulting to the kumquat).  Do I treat him any differently than anyone else?  Nope.  I just suck it up, smile, and say, "So how is YOUR con experience!"  Why?  BECAUSE I'M AN ADULT (as much as I rarely act like it).  My point to all this is we are not babysitters for people's emotions.  Everything can be termed offensive and/or taken out of context.  If I really wanted to, I could say this entire discussion is offensive to me.  How?  Kinda like this...

Kryssie makes legit complaint about something offensive.
Male staff laugh and pat her on the head, saying, "It's been dealt with..."
Male gamer complains about male GM t-shirt.
Male staffers up in arms.
FEMALE staff is saying, "WTF?"

See what I did there?  C'mon, guys... Let's *really* think about this issue before we start making "decisions" about it.  This is a con to escape real life--and that includes places where there are *already* rules about what you can wear on your t-shirt.  Common decency laws still apply, however.  ACM is not getting off on that one.  If I can still smile and not run away in fear of my life, then a player who said nothing at the time can just deal with his own lack of a sense of humor.

....and why are we overlooking the young lady who said he was creepy and mean?  I *could* toss that into my "gender equality" schtick above, as well.

On Thu, Sep 6, 2012 at 8:03 AM, Kryssie <phantom.hopscotch at gmail.com> wrote:

To ask yet another logical question...

Did the person play the game and say nothing?  Because, that's kinda lame and goes back to my original question of how an inanimate object can antagonize a rational being.   Whereas I'm all for making the con a welcoming place, I remember an incident right after I joined staff that was brushed under the rug and I was given a pat on the head and told it had been dealt with (assless chaps man, anyone?). I'm currently disinclined to take action against someone's inability to have a sense of humor.  I hear Amazon is offering free shipping for those....

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Kryssie Mackey
310.766.9954
Phantom.Hopscotch at gmail.com

----- Reply message -----
From: "Victor B" <fhoenix88 at yahoo.com>
To: "deptheads at strategicon.net" <deptheads at strategicon.net>
Subject: [Deptheads] Re: GM complaint
Date: Thu, Sep 6, 2012 3:10 am

Personally I do not feel a game convention is a place to debate politics, race, sex preference, illegal immigration, abortion, religion, etc....especially from staff and volunteers.
Dress code, hygene, language, be on time,  and other things are in my gm emails. It is humorous but gets the point across about not wearing certain shirts or skimpy costumes while gming. Be respectful to those attending your event.
Personally I have asked gms to change shirts or turn them inside out while gming. They can wear what they want while not gming but pokemon doesn't need a gm with a religious shirt mocking gay marriage. Same with the abortion debate t-shirts.
I have yet to have a gm argue to keep their mud slinging shirt on while gming. 
Political mocking t-shirts are worn to antagonize. People know this when they put them on. Our gms (as Ryan and Eric B. have stated) should be welcoming not antagonizing our attendees. 
I am republican so I don't care if people bash obama but there will be attendees that are turned-off  by gms pushing their politics, religion, beliefs, etc. Most won't complain to us but they will on facebook, twitter, blogs, etc. Some won't return.
And none of us here can go up to an  attendee bothered by political mocking t-shirts and say "We looked at the shirts and we don't see what your problem is".  
Most staff already discuss expectations with their volunteers and those that do not can start. We are rocking the cons and growing...so let's keep the good vibrations going in 2013.........................

V

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