[Deptheads] Re: GM complaint

[Kryssie]

I disagree.  But, quite obviously, I am the minority in a great many ways.
I *do* agree, however, with Nyquist.  Doing something *now* will only
exacerbate the issue.  It's not even a problem, really....it's an
issue...that very few of us even have evidence of.  Shane, Dean, and
Burgess are likely the only ones who truly know who the person even
is...and if it's *THAT BIG* of a deal.....just don't allow him to GM for a
con or two.  "Dude, we got a couple of complaints about you, and we're
looking into the situation...so, until we resolve the issue, we can't allow
you to GM for Orccon."  I don't think we need to make a huge production out
of it and it kinda also addresses the "Mean and Creepy" complaint, as well
(which, I agree, is the bigger issue).  I think we need to take more action
to make people feel *safe* at the convention rather than to ensure their
feelings aren't hurt.

...and Mike Fryer will probably remember the tirade I had about an RPG GM
at Orccon this year who was *actually* offensive.  If I can go to the
department head and say, "This guy's an ass" the day of the event, anyone
can.  I am NOT a confrontational person (unless you hit my hot
button...which, clearly, this issue does).  I can seriously turn this into
a "oh, it's just a girl's delicate sensibilities" issue vs. a "this is one
of the bros getting up in arms" issue.  THEN we will have some *serious*
problems.  Really look at *why* a t-shirt is the issue and not the *creepy*
factor.  As creepy as I call Paiva, if someone's bothering me, he's the
first one I go to because he will *defend* and he will take care of the
problem....mafia style.  I've gone to him exactly 0 times because, as I
stated... I just *ignore* the people doing creepy things....  Believe me,
I've felt *very* unsafe at our convention.  When those moments happen, I
grab whatever male friend I'm with and say, "This dude's creeping me
out...."  I don't "report" it because there's nothing anyone can do,
really.  At least, that's what I've been told.

So.  I suppose my new question is....

If a female staff member has lodged a serious complaint before and has been
brushed off, what message are you sending when you want to make rules
regarding t-shirts, but are unmoved to make rules regarding safety?

Yeah, I think I've reached the point of being offended by this discussion.
Maybe not offended....maybe more .... pissed off.  I'll remove myself.
Kthxbai.



On Thu, Sep 6, 2012 at 8:44 AM, Nekojin <nekojin at gmail.com> wrote:

> In fairness, criticizing someone in a position of direct authority over
> you is difficult for most people. Telling the guy who's running a game
> you're playing in that you find his shirt offensive is ESPECIALLY tough,
> especially if you think he might start ruling unfairly over it. So, in
> cases like that, it's better to jump the chain of command - instead of
> addressing the problem directly, address it to someone who has authority
> over the alleged problem person. Which is being done.
>
> My biggest question is why is this all being brought up after the con, and
> not on the day that the incident occurs. He-Said-She-Said becomes far more
> prevalent once the event is several days removed.
>
> And while I somewhat agree with your point about everyone putting on their
> big-boy undies, and simply coping with the problems we encounter, there
> comes a point when something is too big of a problem to just "dummy up and
> deal." We've got several complaints from several different people about the
> same person over the same issue. At that point, I think it's worth
> investigating and dealing with officially.
>
> On Thu, Sep 6, 2012 at 8:03 AM, Kryssie <phantom.hopscotch at gmail.com>wrote:
>
>> To ask yet another logical question...
>>
>> Did the person play the game and say nothing?  Because, that's kinda lame
>> and goes back to my original question of how an inanimate object can
>> antagonize a rational being.   Whereas I'm all for making the con a
>> welcoming place, I remember an incident right after I joined staff that was
>> brushed under the rug and I was given a pat on the head and told it had
>> been dealt with (assless chaps man, anyone?). I'm currently disinclined to
>> take action against someone's inability to have a sense of humor.  I hear
>> Amazon is offering free shipping for those....
>>
>>
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